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Boundries
Bravery versus Courage
Questions that Baffle us
F.E.A.R.
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Sorry

I am sorry...how many times I have heard those words from your mouth...I am sorry, it wasn't meant to hurt you...but guess what it did hurt me.  For years I though I am sorry meant I had to forgive, I had to forget, I had to swallow it..See next time it will be different.  Next time he won't yell those horrible things, push me around, be little me, or undermined me. All because he said I am sorry...Those three magical words that are suppose to make everything ok.  
What I have learned is I am sorry does not erase what was done.

Boundries

Boundaries
.  One simple word, so many meaning. Physical boundaries are the obvious.  We visually see something that makes STOP.  A yellow caution tape, a wall, a sign such as DO NOT ENTER.  But what about emotional boundaries? You can't see them, sometimes we don't even know we need to set them, then when they are set how do we enforce them.

To be more direct, what is an emotional boundary.  We as the human race on the whole know physical boundary we learn them from a young age, the most obvious and do not lay your hands on another person, such as hit or slap; that is a physical boundary.

Bravery versus Courage

Well I took a wonderful class yesterday.....Learned so much, most important was how I felt going there.  Excited full of anticipation, not afraid, or fearful...now that is a huge change.
So much that I learned and will write about as I sort through it all...The thing that sticks out most in my mind is this
The difference between Bravery and Courage

Bravery is having no fear and completing and action
Courage is having fear and doing it anyway

Now pause for a moment...I did...I always thought I was a brave person, taking on new challenges and facing things head on, now I see I am a courageous person.

Questions that Baffle us

We are forever growing...One step at a time, one discovery at a time.  Just when I think I have it all figured out WHAM something new pops up and I am rendered useless... wellll....l not really more like thrown off balance-kinda like a spinning top that falls over.

I love the question when people ask you w"What do you want" ahhhh is this s trick question.....Between the carpooling, sports schedule  dinners, laundry , bills, grocery store runs I don't think I have stopped in a long time to figure out what do I want, and my typical flighty answer of "Peace on Earth" isn't really cutting it.

F.E.A.R.

F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real

Can you relate...I can....When I begin to beleive what "others" say I am am or look at things through others eyes I allow that to become my Evidence.  Which is False...

However I will allow these things to limit me, to tell me I can't do something, I am not good enough, I dont have enough time, What were you thinking....then it all begins to Appear Real

Guess what ITS NOT.... I am what I want to be...boy sounds a little silly when you say it out loud but it is TRUE!

TODAY I CHOOSE HAPPINESS

Happy New Year to all.  Today is full of choices...Today I choose happiness.. 2014 will be an adventurous year, filled with change...Change doesn't have to be scary...change can be wonderful...I read a quote the other day that really hit home..."Tell me what you will do with your one wild and adventurous life" Well ....?

These changes occur one step at a time, one change at a time, corny I know Rome wasn't built in a day.  Working with a Life Coach showed me how to make these changes a little at a time, and how to enjoy the journey.

Experiencing happiness

Well enjoyed a beautiful weekend, filled with being pulled in a thousand direction, soccer tournaments, dinners to attend, emotional teenagers, homework assignments, and out of town visitors.  This stuff used to weigh me down, Spent more time worrying about how to get it all done, and what was the next thing, I forgot to enjoy the moment I was in.  This isn't the case anymore.  I find such joy and beauty in the moments, being present to where I am , knowing that everything will get done, and will get done well.

Another day, andother journey

Well isn't that the truth.  Fear shows it self in so many different ways.  For me it was anger and frustration, always looking to the outside of me to make my inside feel better...Spending time wishing away , thinking if only I had that....and that could be anything...the perfect well behaved kid, the bigger house, the more attentive husband, the new car...a prettier smile,

Then there is obvious fear, fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of the unknown, fear of injury...

I have learned it is what I do with my fear, do I let it "rule me" and my decisions or do I face it head on.

The beginning

Today is the beginning. 
"You are the creator of your own destiny...these are inspirational words that have carried me through the journey I am on.  It is up to me to reach the goals and life I want.  It is not always easy, most things worthwhile take commitments and hard work, but the rewards are indescribable.  Internal happiness, facing fears, enjoying the moment, released from worry , these are a few of the wonderful gifts that I have experienced along my journey.  I call them gifts because they have been given to me, whether it be from a higher power, a God as some choose to call it, an outside force greater then me, these things were placed in front of me, I choose to open these gifts now and experience all they have to offer, rather then leaving them sitting on the table or "returning" them thinking I could find something better.
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